Shyness

One of the reasons I created with this blog was to put forward all of my thoughts, this is because when it comes to talk to actual people that's where I struggle, I find it hard to find words and even when I do sometimes I don't say them. It is normal in this day and age, it is such a popular thing that many girls struggle with. About 40% of us would describe ourselves this way. It's only a problem if shyness stops us doing stuff we want to.

Being shy myself I was kinda of unsure as to why people are shy so I did abit of googling.
Sometimes people are born timid, while others become shy because of experiences they had, maybe in childhood. For example, being told not to show off or talk to strangers.Other people become shy because they experience things that make them wary - like being rejected, ridiculed or ignored. As a result, self-esteem gets lowered, so they start to avoid the things that made them feel bad - like social contact with other people. Then it becomes habit.
So how do you know if you are shy?  Well do you feel nervous when you're:

• With people you don't know very well
• At parties
• Meeting new people for the first time
• Talking to strangers
• Talking to people in authority, like teachers or policemen

Do you find it hard to:

• Look people in the eye
• Ask people for information
• Think of things to say when you're in a group
• Act natural with new people
• Give your opinion or assert yourself

Did you answer 'yes' to over half the questions?
Then you may well be shy.
But don't worry about it, its absolutely fine! Shy people are often loyal and thoughtful friends. Imagine the world if everyone was pushy and loud.

If you are looking to become less shy then just take gradual steps, surround yourself with people you are comfortable with and if you suffer knock-backs, pick yourself up and try again. No one gets it perfect every time. and most importantly be happy with yourself. Your own approval is more important than anyone else's. So write that list of all the things you're good at even if they are small stuff as you don't have to be a loudmouth to succeed.
Love you guys,
Becky xx